Parents can reduce unnecessary pressure by changing the way they talk about exams.

Instead of repeatedly asking, “What mark did you get?” ask:

• What did you find difficult?

• What did you learn?

• Which questions were confusing?

• What would you do differently next time?

This shifts the focus from performance alone to learning and improvement.

Preparation can also reduce uncertainty. Students who regularly practise unfamiliar question formats are less likely to be surprised by the structure of an assessment.

A predictable routine helps too. Encourage consistent sleep, regular meals, physical activity and reasonable study periods rather than intense late-night preparation.

Avoid comparing your child with siblings, classmates or friends. Comparison can turn an academic challenge into a perceived judgment of ability.

It is also important to distinguish between productive challenge and excessive pressure. If a student is consistently distressed, refusing to study or experiencing significant anxiety symptoms, parents should consider speaking with the child's school and an appropriate professional.

A practical parent approach

Before the exam: Prepare gradually and establish a predictable routine.

During preparation: Praise effort, strategy and improvement.

On test day: Keep expectations calm and practical.

After the test: Discuss the experience before discussing results.

The goal is not to eliminate every nervous feeling. It is to help children learn that being challenged does not mean they are incapable.